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Post by Mr Whippy on Jan 10, 2016 21:30:03 GMT
Looking at comments made about TAS on another forum this morning, had me thinking: Do men turn into their fathers?
So, are you the whiney, twisty, inconsiderate, intolerant, inconsistent, hard-to-please, never satisfied, beligerent, can't-take-a-hint, always-has-to-have-the-last-word, myopic, minipulative, malcontent, pompous, smartarse-of-an-old git - your father was?
Me? Well, my parents separated when I was 10, so I can't say what he was like as an old man. For myself, I tend not to be that negative. Also, one of my Gran's old sayings I tend to keep in mind : "Before you start on someone else, take a look in the mirror."
I think everyone on forums, should keep one at hand. As they say, the easiest thing in the world is to be a critic. Takes no effort at all.
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Post by MikeMusic on Jan 10, 2016 21:45:04 GMT
Don't think I did. No one around now to tell me if I did or didn't
Agreed on looking in the mirror
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Post by Tim on Jan 10, 2016 22:28:09 GMT
My Dad was jovial, upbeat, well liked and always the first to crack a joke - a true Irish gent . . . so what the feck went wrong with me?
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Post by Slinger on Jan 10, 2016 22:58:36 GMT
I know I haven't turned into my dad. He's dead and I'd have noticed by now...probably.
Always remember, opinions are like ar$eholes. Everybody has one and they quite often stink.
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Post by Chris on Jan 11, 2016 6:35:17 GMT
I look up to my Dad immensely. If I can get anywhere near him I'd be delighted.
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Post by MartinT on Jan 11, 2016 6:57:29 GMT
There are aspects of my Dad that I respect greatly (he was self-made, educated despite leaving school at 13, a highly skilled craftsman and was interested in the world and well travelled) and other aspects I would not seek to emulate (he left us when I was 16 and my sister 13). In later years, we found an understanding and I enjoyed visiting him in NY 2-3 times a year.
My mother used to accuse me of being 'just like your father', to which I learned to reply 'thank you'. She soon stopped doing that.
Have I turned into him? Only the good bits, I hope. It's for others to judge.
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Post by jandl100 on Jan 11, 2016 7:09:20 GMT
My father was a really nice guy. Nicer than me. I've got a bit of 'edge', which he never had.
I can get a bit excitable on forums, which I have regretted afterwards.
I'm improving overall, but I do lapse back now and then.
Some hififorumers seem to set out to be unpleasant trolls. Which is a shame for everybody, including themselves. Bullying which they see as banter, but that can be very unpleasant when you are on the receiving end.
So no, I'm not like my father. But I do try to be.
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Post by MartinT on Jan 11, 2016 7:19:12 GMT
Bullying is always a sign of weakness of character, no exceptions.
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Post by John on Jan 11, 2016 7:31:22 GMT
I was lucky I had a good Father and as I got older used to be able to chat deeply about life which I still cherish
I can see elements of him in other brothers not to sure about me
I have no time for bullies no matter how it is dressed up
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Post by dsjr on Jan 11, 2016 9:43:12 GMT
My dad was a good man, but his passivity which I seem to have inherited is something I have to fight daily.
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Post by julesd68 on Jan 11, 2016 11:22:22 GMT
I miss my dad so much ...
I learnt a long time ago that I would not be destined to emulate his remarkable professional achievements in life but I hope I have inherited at least a few of his personal qualities.
Wish he had been able to see his grandson but happy he managed to get to my wedding at least.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2016 11:29:40 GMT
My Dad was a nice bloke, pleasant to everyone he met .. but unfortunately an incurable alcoholic. I do like to drink but avoid the excesses he was prone to.
I also try to be pleasant to people - unless they act like twats, as some do on 't web unfortunately.
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Post by Pinch on Jan 11, 2016 12:03:07 GMT
I've been thinking about this a bit recently, what with child #1 being due in a few months. My Dad is an odd fellow; we get along much better now than we used to, though we see each other very infrequently since he lives in Hong Kong. I can't say that there's much in him that I'd like to replicate in myself - he's kind of a baby, and can't handle any kind criticism, despite having had tendencies to act in ways which warrant it. I can't imagine him being one for forums though - I think he prefers a less intangible audience.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2016 17:12:20 GMT
I think everyone follows in their father / mothers footsteps to some degree. My dad is a challenge to get along with, probably as are very similar, but I prefer to think I have taken on the more positive aspects of his personality as he does have a strong knack or rubbing people up the wrong way because he thinks he's always right. He also has an ego the size of a planet and is a possessions man... but he has a kind heart and his bark is certainly worse than his bite.
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Post by The Brookmeister on Jan 11, 2016 19:43:12 GMT
I know I haven't turned into my dad. He's dead and I'd have noticed by now...probably. Always remember, opinions are like ar$eholes. Everybody has one and they quite often stink. One of the best forum comments I have ever read, respect dude! |
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Post by dvh on Jan 13, 2016 11:36:09 GMT
One of my favourite quotes: 'Honour thy father and mother. They probably did the best they could.'
I'm very like my father physically, and a bit like him temperamentally. He could be a moody bugger, and so can I. He was always trying to see both sides of any question, and so am I, sometimes to an annoying extent.
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Post by Slinger on Jan 13, 2016 16:58:27 GMT
I know I haven't turned into my dad. He's dead and I'd have noticed by now...probably. Always remember, opinions are like ar$eholes. Everybody has one and they quite often stink. One of the best forum comments I have ever read, respect dude! The bit about my dad being dead or the bit about ar$eholes?  |
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